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Tragic Details About Music Legend Mary J. Blige

December 8, 2019


Ever since the ’90s, Mary J. Blige has made
a living out of pouring her heart and soul into her music. But while the Grammy award-winning singer
has proven she’s a multi-faceted talent, she’s also overcome a deeply dark past. This is the tragic story of Mary J. Blige. Growing up in Yonkers, New York with her mom
Cora, sister, five cousins, and two aunts, Blige was always surrounded by music, according
to the Telegraph. Hits by Aretha Franklin and Patti LaBelle,
were always on rotation. But Blige’s upbringing was anything but rosy. She told The Guardian of her family, “The environment that I was in – they’ll be
mad at me, but it’s the truth – they were angry, hateful, jealous, ignorant, prideful
people.” Her relationship with her mother was also
severely strained, particularly because mom Cora had wanted to be a singer. She said, “It might be that she’s living vicariously
through me, but I believe she’s gotten real bitter about it. It’s probably why we’ve never really got along.” But by 2017, it appeared they had patched
things up during VH1’s Dear Mama event. “Do you remember the best piece of advice
your mom gave you growing up?” “Yeah. She always said don’t let people worry you.” According to The Washington Post, Blige reportedly
said, as a child, that she quote “didn’t care about getting an education,” and she ultimately
dropped out of school in the 11th grade. But reading at only an eighth-grade level
meant she ran into many issues throughout her career. She admitted, “It hurts a lot when you cannot really comprehend
what a person is saying in a meeting or you don’t even understand what you’re reading
in your contract.” In 2011, she finally made her education a
priority by earning her GED, claiming, quote, “Education […] is the key to life.” “The only thing I can say is please educate
yourself, in every way you can, including about yourself. And just believe in yourself.” In an interview with Makers, Blige described
how her life took a turn after the release of her debut album, What’s the 411. At the time, she was still living in the projects
in Yonkers, and she quickly realized that not everyone was thrilled with her new elevated
status. She said, “People are buying your records, they want
to see you. People in the neighborhood wanted to kill
you for it.” Admitting it was beyond challenging coming
from poverty and going on to find such massive success with her music, she tried to handle
it as best she could. “She’s going to survive the only way she knows
how. I was resorting to alcohol and drugs to numb
the pain.” She went on to record her sophomore album,
My Life, which she described as her quote, “call for help.” The winning formula for her album proved to
be the quote “depression and all this oppression” she was dealing with in her real life. From there, she became a musical force to
be reckoned with. After facing so many devastating life events,
Blige soon turned to drugs. In a 2013 interview with Los Angeles Confidential,
the singer opened up about her past addiction to cocaine by saying, “So many dark moments — which all added
up and that’s what sprung on the drug addiction, trying to numb it all with the drugs.” But illicit drugs weren’t her only vice. The singer kicked her coke habit and swapped
it for alcohol to quote, “cover up guilt. Shame. Abandonment.” Her wake up call occurred in 2012 following
the death of a fellow singer. “Whitney Houston was pronounced dead at the
Beverly Hilton Hotel.” Blige said of the legendary powerhouse, “Whitney Houston’s death really affected me. Her death is another reason I stopped [drinking].” To fight her addiction, Blige skipped rehab
and instead turned to a higher power. She claimed, “I believe that anything man himself can do
for me, God can do for me in a greater way. I decided to pray and to seek God on my own. I just stayed in The Word. And it worked.” “I’m a child of God. If he’s amazing then I’m amazing. I’m taking that. That’s it.” In 2012, Blige admitted she has a different
relationship with alcohol, but hasn’t given it up completely, telling Wendy Williams, “I don’t need alcohol to get me out of depression
or get me out of a bad moment, but I have occasional drinks with my friends.” In 2009, Blige co-founded a center in Yonkers
called the Foundation for the Advancement of Women Now. The center was created as a safe haven where
women and young girls could receive life skills, self-help, and gain the tools they needed
to become more empowered. Blige said she was compelled to help women
in particular, especially after what she had experienced while growing up, telling CNN, “As a child I [saw] women really, really suffer
terrible, terrible situations, and I vowed as a child to want to do something – anything
– that can help them have better self-esteem so that they don’t have to be subjected to
men that wanted to kill them.” “It was kinda like being programmed into our
psyches that this is the way we’re supposed to live as women.” But she continued to say the foundation’s
ribbon cutting ceremony gave her mixed feelings. She added, “It was happy and sad because you know the
very place where I’ve seen so many women suffer is the sad part, and the very place that I
suffered is the sad part. But the happy part is I’m back to help. I’m back doing what I dreamed to do. My dream is coming true.” “Believe in who you are. You are going to move people. Don’t be afraid of the power that you have.” Check out one of our newest videos right here! Plus, even more Nicki Swift videos about your
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